My other half after having my baby?

I am right there with you, babe! What we have to understand is a man feels attractive when we give them , and we don't feel like unless we feel attractive. Talk to your Dr about why it hurts (I had a problem with dryness and got Premarin creme, fixed it right up) and talk to BF about what you are feeling and how his help may help him too. And follow thru, don't say "If you help with the dishes, we will have more time to snuggle", then go and play with the kids instead. A realtionship is a struggle but you only get through it by talking and compromising. And most men don't care about 10 pounds if they are getting some, plain and simple